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Folly of Complaining

June 29, 2009 by Giulietta Nardone

I used to complain about all sorts of things in my 20’s and early 30’s. My boyfriends, my jobs, my thighs, my roommates. Ugh. It never ended and I never got anywhere. The real problem with complaining is that without a solution, it keeps the complainer in a state of powerlessness & intertia. Yes, there’s a certain kind of camaraderie when you have a complaint-fest, but it’s not particularly healthy to cross complain.

Try taking your complaint and turn it 1) into a positive and 2) into an action to step to alleviate it. For example,

My roommate never buys toilet paper.

I get to buy the kind of toilet paper I like: 2-ply and soft.

I’m going to ask my roommate to buy some toilet paper.

Try this for all your complaints and see if you feel more empowered to take action.

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